Comments on: It’s Okay Not to Have Your Career Figured Out Right Away https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/ A Lifestyle Blog Fri, 11 Jun 2021 19:26:52 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.6.1 By: Anne https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-614235 Sun, 23 Sep 2018 17:15:31 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-614235 I am in my second to last year of college and still don’t know what I want to do after. I love what I am studying and who I am becoming through my studies, but where do I go after school? I don’t know. I have no idea what to do and it is frightening.

]]> By: Lara https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-613693 Tue, 18 Sep 2018 17:23:23 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-613693 I’m super late to the party in the comments section but man oh man, can I relate to this article. Thank you Jackie and all of you who have posted comments. I’ve read each one and felt less alone. I’m 33 and I wake up with ultimate dread and panic every morning. Like time is flying by and I’m not doing enough to figure things out. I was a lost high school student and a lost college student and seemingly surrounded by friends who knew what to pursue and when to do it and how to do it just right. It’s maddening. I wish more people talked about this exact thing.

Also, if anyone is in Chicago, I’d love to connect and commiserate. šŸ™‚

]]> By: kristin https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-613535 Mon, 17 Sep 2018 10:07:08 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-613535 this really resonated with me – thank you! my career path looks great on paper, but each day is filled increasingly with dread and doubt. iā€™m only 32 but i feel too old and invested to start over. i know iā€™m the only one putting those limits on myself. thanks for reminding me that itā€™s ok to not have it all figured out (and that iā€™m not alone!).

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]]> By: Michelle Davis https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-611523 Fri, 31 Aug 2018 02:09:27 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-611523 Well.. Let’s put this away.I am 43 years old and still don’t know what do I want to do in my life. I have a Marketing degree but I don’t really fell the connection in my heart. It’s just a job and pay the bills. I will find my destiny some day, just like you will too.Thanks for the encouraging words.

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-611188 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 20:35:43 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-611188 In reply to Michaela.

Michaela! Hello to a fellow Twin…Citian? (I do not know if citian is a word but we are going to go with it.) I am always open for coffee / drinks!

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-611187 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 20:31:03 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-611187 In reply to Jackie.

Jackie I have read your comment multiple times because it just makes me feel better? Less alone? You know? Also I keep laughing at your “no I have no friggin clue” response. It never ceases to amaze me how many people seem to expect absolutely certainty from all the life choices I make. Like “No ma’am, I am not 100% positive this is right, I am simply doing my best!!” Good on you for pursuing a new path, and for figuring things out as you go along. Hope your first course this fall goes well!

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-611186 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 20:15:57 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-611186 In reply to Molly.

Molly! Thank you for commenting! I am sorry that you feel so lost but also I GET IT. Please, please keep reminding yourself every damn day that you are good enough to pursue the life you want. BECAUSE YOU ARE. I am still working on taking that advice for myselfā€”it can be a hard thing to believe, but it’s true.

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-611185 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 20:10:35 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-611185 In reply to Sarah.

I’m SO glad it resonated. Definitely agree that not enough people are talking about this kind of stuff. Thank you for adding to the dialogue on the topic!!

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-611182 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 20:07:00 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-611182 In reply to Pia.

YES. Thank you for the reminder, Pia!!

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-611181 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 20:05:39 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-611181 In reply to Emily.

Emily is it weird that I started tearing up when I read that quote?? Because I did. I know I’ve heard it before, at some point, but in this context it means a lot. Anyway thank you for sharing, and for reminding me that I’m not alone. And GOOD ON YOU for taking that next step, terrifying campus tours with high school students and all. Best of luck to you, too!!

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-611180 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 19:59:09 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-611180 In reply to Tori.

Tori! Thank YOU so much for reading. I totally hear you. It’s so damn easy to compare our own lives to those of our friends; I do it, too! Way too often! I’ll try not to compare myself to others quite as much going forward, if you’ll do the same? Deal?

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-611178 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 19:53:12 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-611178 In reply to Mikayla Livingston.

I’m so glad those words resonated with you! I can assure you, you are not the only one who’s felt behind. You are not the only one who took a risk that didn’t exactly pan out (and hell, good on you for taking a risk in the first place!!). I think a lot of folks feel that way, and I think many of them just never talk about it. Keep on taking those steps forward; you’ve got this.

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-611177 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 19:43:39 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-611177 In reply to Paige Cassandra Flamm.

YES. Absolutely. Here’s to not having a strict timeline. Thank you for taking the time to comment!!

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-611176 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 19:41:22 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-611176 In reply to Teresa Maria.

Thank you for your comment and encouragement!! So nice to know that someone else can relate. And BLESS those 2 recruiters for having an open mind.

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-611175 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 19:37:15 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-611175 In reply to Allie.

So appreciate your perspective on this. It’s a lesson I’ve slowly been learning throughout my twentiesā€”that every single piece of the puzzle is never going to fit “perfectly” at any given time, and to try to accept that, rather than dwell on those perceived imperfections. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!!

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-611174 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 19:28:41 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-611174 In reply to Kate.

I’m so glad. Thank you for reading!

]]> By: Jackie Saffert https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-611173 Mon, 27 Aug 2018 19:27:52 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-611173 In reply to Marie Jacobson Noyes.

Marie! Hello to a fellow architecture grad in Mpls! I’m so glad my perspective resonated, at least a little. Totally hear you, it can be V HARD, but just keep on moving in that new direction, even if forward progress is slow sometimes. I BELIEVE IN YOU.

]]> By: Jackie https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-611022 Sat, 25 Aug 2018 13:00:26 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-611022 Such a great post that feels so close to home. Iā€™m in a career that I fell into with a degree in marketing. Recently I decided to pursue interior design and people think Iā€™m nuts that I want to ā€œstart overā€ with school and a new career path. People ask if Iā€™m absolutely certain this is what I want. And to be honest, no I have no friggin clue and itā€™s been so hard to have those discussions with others and even myself. But the similarities to your post (even down to your name!) are that I just need to take it one step at a time. Iā€™m enrolled in my first course for design this fall and am okay with figuring it out as I go along!

Best,
Jackie

]]> By: Molly https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-610939 Fri, 24 Aug 2018 13:42:15 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-610939 Such a fab post! Thank you for sharing! I’m trained as a singer and now work in an admin job which I find so so boring! I long to do what I love but have told myself again and again I’m not good enough! I feel so lost!! This has made my day! Honestly! Thank you so much!

Lots of love,
Molly
http://themollymap.com

]]> By: Sarah https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-610896 Fri, 24 Aug 2018 01:41:55 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-610896 This is SPOT on. Thank you for saying the things that we are ALL thinking, but that no one talks about with each other because we are too insecure to be the one to admit we actually DON’T love our jobs. Just what I needed to hear today.

]]> By: Pia https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-610770 Thu, 23 Aug 2018 04:34:49 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-610770 Thank you from all us ā€œother folksā€! We may not find that one career passion, but we can keep pursuing the things that light us up, and enjoy the journey.

]]> By: Emily https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-610767 Thu, 23 Aug 2018 02:51:17 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-610767 I’m turning 29 in Oct. and I’m only now pursuing a bachelors degree (Hi, campus tours with high school students, its terrifying). I was a hairstylist for 7 years and then for the last 5 years worked in the restaurant industry. I’ve been in the limbo of “WHAT DO I DO WITH MY LIFE?!”. For years I only considered jobs that were “functional”. I never allowed myself to consider studying the arts until my husband shared this quote with me :
ā€œDonā€™t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.ā€

ā€• Howard Thurman

Its nice to hear I’m not alone in this. Best of luck in your learning, life, and career journeys!

]]> By: Tori https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-610745 Wed, 22 Aug 2018 18:25:01 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-610745 Thank you so much for this! It really resonated. I’m looking for a career change but feel so behind at 35 compared to my other friends who have the home ownership/professional titles/marriage/kids all figured out. It’s refreshing to hear that so many other people are going through the same thing!

]]> By: Mikayla Livingston https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-610699 Wed, 22 Aug 2018 03:50:15 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-610699 Absolutley loved this article! Your words hit home with “maybe you feel behind”; I feeling I strive to overcome with friends coming up on 1 year work anniversaries. I took a risk at a London grad school / internship canidadcy season of my life after college which didn’t exactly pan out leaving me to search months later for a job. Thank you for sharing it’s taking it one step at a time and not letting yourself think you’re not qualified to get there.

]]> By: Paige Cassandra Flamm https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-610668 Tue, 21 Aug 2018 20:11:57 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-610668 I love all of this! I went to college when I graduated high school, dropped out, got certified in dental assisting, got an associates degree, made a living blogging for 10 years, and am now finally going back and finishing the last few classes I need for my bachelors this year. There is no strict timeline and that is okay!

Paige
http://thehappyflammily.com

]]> By: Michaela https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-610653 Tue, 21 Aug 2018 15:47:42 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-610653 You sound like the kind of person I’d like to meet with for coffee or cocktails – I bet we would have some really fun conversations that have nothing to do with the mundane at all. Coincidentally, I live in St Paul which is only a stone’s throw from Minneapolis so y’know….

Just tossing that out there.

]]> By: Teresa Maria https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-610646 Tue, 21 Aug 2018 12:29:07 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-610646 This is so true! I totally recognized myself in this text and I am also still at my 29th year trying to figure out what I want to be “when I grow up”. While figuring this out I have completed 2 degrees and worked in Sales, Marketing, IT, Banking, you name it, I’ve probably done it.
Some people see my scattered and quite international CV as a drawback. But younger recruiters recognize that I might actually have a lot more to give than that next person who has only ever worked in one company or one industry. Unfortunately I’ve only met about 2 such recruiters šŸ˜€
But we will get there, I’m certain of it!

Teresa xx
outlandishblog.com

]]> By: Kate https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-610601 Mon, 20 Aug 2018 22:33:25 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-610601 Your fine words and perspective are right on time, thank you!

]]> By: Allie https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-610578 Mon, 20 Aug 2018 16:16:45 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-610578 I’m 33 and still have no clue! I think its also okay to not have EVERYTHING figured out at the same time. I have some of the “milestones” (hate considering them these, but alas…), like marriage and a child, and a decent career on paper. However, we’re still gun shy about home ownership, are concerned about volatility in our job markets, and are indecisive about where to live. Plus, my “decent career” is not my passion and I’m still searching for that way to figure out the better path forward. Life is just an evolving puzzle!!!

]]> By: Marie Jacobson Noyes https://witanddelight.com/2018/08/okay-not-have-career-figured-out-right-away/#comment-610574 Mon, 20 Aug 2018 15:45:41 +0000 https://witanddelight.com/?p=29998#comment-610574 OMG this is exactly what I needed to hear today. I’m a fellow architecture grad who dabbles in graphic design and I recently moved back to Minneapolis after grad school in NYC. I have a good but dissatisfying job now and I’m working hard on moving my career in a new direction and it is SO HARD. Putting yourself out there is so hard. I appreciate hearing another perspective on this.
Thanks šŸ™‚

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